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Happy I Don’t Need A Man To Complete Me Day!

Posted on February 14, 2018 by victoria

I kid! Sort of.

I spent a lot of years feeling like a failure for not finding a lasting connection to someone where we complement each other. There have been lots of misses, but no real hits to speak of.

And I’m (now) okay with that.

First I needed to go through the difficult journey of learning to love myself. Learning that it is OKAY to love myself. That loving myself is not being selfish, but filling my own cup so that I have plenty to share. (Which I do, in my own, socially-awkward way.)

But romantic love? I’m honestly not sure that it’s for me.

At this point in my life marriage would be mostly a business venture. And after working in pension administration for 14 years and seeing some of the viciousness from divorcing couples splitting assets, you’d better believe that, were I to marry, I’LL KEEPING ALL OF THE DAMN RECEIPTS.

So, yeah, it’s possible that I’ve grown too cynical for Love And Marriage.

On the other hand, maybe I just function best as an independent woman. And by that I mean independent of an intimate partner but not independent of my community, my family, my squad. Because the love that I share with them has lifted us all through good times and difficult times. And that’s more valuable to me than a dozen roses and a box of chocolates1.

Happy Valentine’s Day. I love you.????

1If you were to send me a box of chocolates, though, I would not refuse delivery. ????????

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2 thoughts on “Happy I Don’t Need A Man To Complete Me Day!”

  1. Corinne says:
    February 14, 2018 at 4:51 pm

    I know just the chocolates I would send you! ❤
    Happy Valentine’s Day, my friend.

    1. victoria says:
      February 14, 2018 at 6:18 pm

      Happy Valentine’s Day, Love!

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