The Raleigh World: The Beginning

The most Frequently Asked Question I get since I moved here is, “Why Raleigh?” The answer has many facets internally but is really rather simple. I knew I needed to get out of the Bay Area and I knew that I was entering a point in my life where I needed to really push the boundaries of my comfort zone. There was no growth staying on the west coast, where I lived my entire life. I needed a very different environment that was going to challenge me in many different ways.

As I was pondering the map of the United States, Raleigh kept coming up for me. So a year ago this week I flew from Oakland to Raleigh to check out the area (and also see if I could exist in southern summer weather without dropping dead).

From Oaktown to Oak City
From Oaktown to Oak City

I know I look pissed off in this photo but I hadn’t slept and the sun/cloud combination was glaring. I actually was pretty damn happy that I found a parking garage that charged me only $7 for ALL-FRIKKIN-DAY PARKING. It’s next to impossible to find parking in San Francisco that doesn’t charge $7 an hour.

I had a couple of ideas of where I wanted to go on my visit but otherwise left my itinerary wide open. Raleigh was completely new to me and I wanted to dip back and forth into touristy stuff and places locals frequent.

map
Getting my bearings in downtown Raleigh.

Raleigh was incredibly friendly and welcoming: I never felt like a stranger. Now that I’ve lived here for nearly six months, I still find kindness and friendliness abound (well, maybe not so much on the freeways…holy crap people, save the tailgating for the sporting events!).

Be Kind
Concrete Wisdom

On my last evening at my AirBnB I was talking with my host and I think we both knew that I would be back. I think I was looking for reasons to NOT move here and if anything the heat and humidity would have been the dealbreaker. I fared a lot better than I thought I would, once I learned that carrying a bottle of water around with me was mandatory, if I didn’t want to pass out on the sidewalk.

In Raleigh, I found a comfortable place, yet it pulls me out of my comfort zone. A place that is friendly to me, but at the same time I am learning to navigate the ways that the south remains inhospitable to people of color and the LGBTQ community. I’m in a place where making a living won’t drain my energy to make a life. A place with tremendous creative energy and a community that challenges me to NOT fall back into old habits and limiting thought patterns.

I’m glad I made the choice to make Raleigh a home for me and Dos Gatos Locos.

Leaving Raleigh
I knew I’d be back.

I Know It’s Not Caturday, But…

I’m really trying to avoid turning this into a Cat Blog, but dangit, these boys of mine are so gorgeous!

Also, it’s Adopt A Shelter Cat Month, so if you were thinking of adding some FLOOF to your life (highly recommended), check out your local shelters and rescue groups!

Clarence Hiddleston
Clarence Hiddleston Klum. Answers to Clancy because when I call him by his full name he knows he’s in trouble so he ignores me.
Charlie-Kat Klum
Charlie-Cat Klum. That’s how his name is in the Walgreens prescription database. Sounds like he’s a drummer in a Jazz Power Trio.

The Raleigh World: Month Five

Let’s just jump right into the #WeatherReportByVicster, shall we?

So in Month Five I learned that the temperature and the dew point like to be twinsies and no matter what I pull out of my closet I’m basically going to be wearing the air for the foreseeable future.

Also bugs.

Big, nasty bugs.

A couple of weeks ago I was reading in my living room chair and I heard Charlie chattering softly in the other room. This went on for several minutes and I figured he was playing with one of his toys, since he loves to carry them around and “sing” to them. I got up to get a glass of water and saw Charlie playing next to the kitchen, still murmuring. Only he wasn’t playing with a toy mouse: apparently a beetle had gotten inside and instead of killing it, Charlie was giving it a tour of the apartment.

So much for his feline hunting instinct.

Other than being too tender-hearted to be a bug-killing machine, Charlie and his brother Clancy are well and happy. Of course, neither has had to visit a vet yet, but we’re coming up on annual exam and s-h-o-t season. Given how miserably hot and humid it gets, I’m thinking of using a mobile vet for these services, to avoid the extra stress of car travel.

Clancy and Charlie are exhausted from a day of napping.
Clancy and Charlie are exhausted from a day of napping.

We celebrated Clancy’s birthday on June 1st. We don’t really know when he was born, so we celebrate in June, since we celebrate Charlie’s birthday in July. Despite the heat Clancy still loves to snuggle in bed at night and take naps on my lap. Not the most comfortable thing when you are a human woman of a certain age who is prone to hot flashes, but Charlie and I are so lucky to have Clancy and his big, sweet heart in our lives.

Pet Adoption, Pen Shows, and Passion Projects

I recently began volunteering with Best Friend Pet Adoption in Cary. I spent some time last week taking portraits of some of their adoptable kitties. Unsurprisingly, I fell in love with every single one of these sweet babies! I can’t bring them all home with me, but I have talent that I can offer to help them all find good, loving homes.

Victoria Klum Photography: BFPA Cats &emdash; Calgary
Calgary is a beautiful, sweet girl available for adoption.

I am also looking for housing advocacy groups to volunteer time and talent with. From my time in the Bay Area, I know that fair and affordable housing aligns closely with animal advocacy because, when a family experiences housing destabilization, pets often get left at shelters or abandoned. The growth that the Triangle is experiencing–including the potential for both Apple and Amazon coming to the area–is putting pressure on housing and I intend to be a very loud voice for making sure Raleigh doesn’t sell its soul like the Bay Area did.

There is one other Passion Project that I have in the works and I hope to be able to talk more about it in the coming days/weeks.

The first weekend in June was the Triangle Pen Show in Raleigh. I had never attended a pen show before, however, I have attended camera/photography shows and know how easy it is to drop a few hundred dollars before you’ve gone five feet into the showroom, so I had a seriously restricted budget. I did allow myself a couple of bottles of ink and some notepads for work and a new journal (I’m venturing into the world of Bullet Journaling), and I got a good idea of what pens I want to save money up for *cough*FRANKLIN-CHRISTOPH*cough*. I found myself lusting after my friend Corinne’s new F-C pen (custom made at the show), and got to play with several more of them this past weekend at the Triangle Pen Club meetup. Franklin-Christoph is a local company (headquartered in Wake Forest, NC), they’re very nice folks and everything they had, from pens to notebooks to inks, was just gorgeous!

Exploring

With Corinne in town for the pen show, it was the perfect excuse to finally try The Fiction Kitchen diner. It was recommended to me when I visited last year and it really lived up to the hype! Yet another data point showing that vegetarian dining is not boring or flavorless. I had a mock-fried chicken sandwich with smashed potatoes and we split some root veggie fries with chipotle “buttermilk” dressing and cornmeal fried oyster mushrooms with a dill aioli and it was all delicious. Also, I really wanted to bring this vase home with me.

Golden Girls Vase
I coveted this vase at The Fiction Kitchen

Other than that and a couple of other trips into downtown Raleigh, I haven’t done as much wandering as I would like, now that gas prices are creeping toward $3/gallon. But I have a couple of day trip ideas in mind and hope to hit the road soon.

Month six. SIX!

It’s hard to believe I’m already heading into my sixth month here. In some ways west coast life seems like a distant memory and yet there are days when I forget I’m not in California (until I step outside into the Wall Of Heat And Humidity). As always, there are days when I hit my stride and days when I stumble, but it’s all experience and I look forward to more learning and more growth in the month to come.

How To Survive A Cross-Country Drive With Cats

In 2017 I made a life-changing decision to leave the San Francisco Bay Area and move across the country to Raleigh, North Carolina. There is so much that goes into planning a cross-country move, from finding a place to live to figuring out how to get you and your stuff from coast to coast. Figuring out how to get my two cats, Charlie and Clancy, from California to North Carolina was the challenge that I worried the most about.

FLYING OR DRIVING

I considered flying across the country with my Boys: however, this was before the latest round of incidents that caused airlines to restrict pets flying in the cabin, which is the ONLY way my Boys will fly. My Boys are my family and there is no way I will transport them where I can’t monitor them myself, so putting my furkids in a cargo hold is a hard no for me.

As attractive as the idea of subjecting them to just one day of travel was, the “cons” were significant:

Airlines generally have a one pet per passenger rule. Having to buy an additional ticket so I can bring both cats together was cost-prohibitive.

There is only one direct flight between the Bay Area and Raleigh and it is always packed (and it’s on an airline that I long ago vowed to never fly again). Having to change planes introduced too many possibilities for something to go wrong during the trip: weather issues causing a missed connection, requiring rebooking; getting bumped from a flight (especially changing planes from a 737 to a commuter jet).

Getting my car across the country. Do I drive the car, then fly back and pick up my cats? Do I fly them out, then leave them with a sitter for a week while I come back for my car?

cute tabby brothers
d’awwww!

In the end I decided that the three of us would stick together for the entire move. A week in the car with two cats who hate car trips. I wondered how I was going to pull this off without losing my sanity.

With a lot of planning (and giving your li’l Floofs extra love throughout the process), it is possible to bring your cats on the road with you and maintain your sanity.

VISIT THE V-E-T

The very first thing you should do is consult with your cat’s veterinarian. If you haven’t taken kitty in for his check-up recently, it’s a good idea to schedule a visit. You want to make sure that your cat is healthy enough to make a road trip, or get advice on how to accommodate a special needs kitty.

You will also need to make sure your cat’s vaccinations are up to date: the state you are relocating to may require documentation showing your cat is vaccinated for rabies. It’s also a good time to stock up on flea treatment.

If your cat isn’t chipped, do not leave the vet’s office without one (and make sure you register it). If your cat is microchipped, have your vet check to make sure it is still readable, and when you get home, make sure the information in the registry–especially your phone number–is up to date.

Since my cats are indoor-only, neither of them wore collars. However, anything can happen on the road, and not every vet or shelter is equipped with a microchip reader, so I wanted them to have an extra level of identification.

We had tried breakaway collars in the past with limited success, so this time I went with Beastie Bands. They are made of neoprene (think wetsuit material), are lightweight, and can stretch enough that a cat can escape if the collar gets tangled on something (each of the Boys have escaped the collar during particularly rambunctious wrestling matches). I bought a pair of them and put them on my cats about 12 weeks prior to our trip, so they would have time to get used to wearing a collar (and not heap ALL of the changes on them at once).

One of the issues we had with collars in the past was the dangling tag(s) that bothered the cats, especially when they eat and drink. I searched online and found Boomerang tags. Boomerang has a tag design that doesn’t hang and can be slipped onto a collar. They offer a set that includes the Boomerang collar tag and Beastie Band, so I ordered a set for Charlie and Clancy. These collars are lightweight enough that I have kept them on months after our move.

Clancy
Clancy, modeling his Beastie Band with his Boomerang Tag.

CARRIERS

I know people that travel with their cats and let them roam free in the car on the road. They made it sound so bucolic: Li’l Floof watches out the window and then settles down on a lap and naps for the rest of the trip.

Well, I also know Clancy and Charlie enough to know that, if they’re loose in the car, there’s a 100% chance that both of them will figure out how to get up inside the dashboard in about two minutes. Also, we were facing 3,000 miles worth of unpredictable drivers. There was no question that they would be riding in carriers, mostly for their safety, but maybe a little bit because I didn’t want to have to disassemble my car to pry them out of a hiding place.

I had already budgeted for new carriers when I was considering flying them to North Carolina, and even though they would be riding in the car I decided to buy new ones anyway. I bought them about four months before the trip and kept them open in the living room and bedroom for the remainder of our time in the old apartment. I designated these carriers for ONLY the road trip: I kept their old carriers for the vet visits, that way the new carriers would not have an association with going to the vet (I donated the old carriers to the local shelter when we moved).

If new carriers are not in the budget, you can scrub out their regular carriers after their last vet checkup and then spritz the inside with a pheromone spray.

DRUGS. YAY OR NAY?

I struggled with this question as I planned our cross-country move. There are solid arguments for either option. One school of thought is that you don’t want to drug your pet because if he goes into physical distress, the symptoms could be masked by the drugs and you might not realize your cat is in distress until it becomes an emergency. On the other hand, when you have an anxious cat, providing a sedative may help reduce his car anxiety.

Charlie would get so anxious in the car that he’d hyperventilate–and the trip to the vet’s office took less than 10 minutes! As much as I’m philosophically anti-drug, if there was even a small chance that a sedative would relax him so he wasn’t panting for 3,000 miles, I would get on board in a heartbeat.

So bring this up with your veterinarian. If your cat tends to do all right in the car (a bit of yowling, but no panting or other signs of distress), your cat should be fine without drugs.

Your vet may tell you to avoid drugging your cat if he has a medical condition that could be exacerbated by providing sedatives. This is very important to consider if you want to use herbal tinctures, such as Jackson Galaxy’s Stress Stopper or Scaredy Cat blend. Please check with your vet before administering these, so you and your cat aren’t surprised by any reactions.

If you decide that drugs are necessary, you should consider administering the first dose and do a test trip BEFORE you begin your long drive. This will let you assess how how well the sedative works (or doesn’t) and your vet can make any needed adjustments before you hit the road for real. You don’t want to be hundreds of miles away from your vet’s office before you discover that your cat reacts poorly to the drug.

Clancy and Charlie reacted a little differently to the sedative. Once the drugs got into Clancy’s system he was very relaxed, almost wet-noodle-like. Charlie was still a little more active, however, I only had to chase him around the apartment a couple of times to wrangle him into his carrier (without drugs, this is usually a 15-20 minute process). Both did well on the test drive: Charlie got a little vocal about 30 minutes in, but he wasn’t panting or showing any sign of distress, which was a HUGE victory. Clancy responded to Charlie’s chatter a couple of times, but mostly he napped.

On our actual trip, I sedated Charlie and Clancy only for the first two days. The first day it went well: I gave them their sedative in pill pockets when we woke up, so they would have time to take effect while I showered and loaded the car. There was a bit of “conversation” from them during the first drive, but they did really well.

The second morning did not go so well: both of them had the pill pockets figured out and would not touch them, even without a pill inside. Plan B was the “pry open the mouth and shove the pill in” method. After 30-40 minutes of wrestling both cats I possibly managed to get one pill in Charlie. I thought I had successfully administered one to Clancy, but found three partially-disintegrated pills on my final sweep of the room before we left. However, both of them did well enough on the drive that day that I decided that trying to pill them was more stress than it was worth. They both handled the remaining car trips like champions.

ACCOMMODATION

We pet parents are fortunate to be living in an age where the hospitality industry agrees that our furkids are family: many hotels and AirBnB rentals are pet-friendly. But you should still do your research to be sure the place you want to call home for the night is cat-friendly.

The Automobile Association of America (AAA) is a great resource for planning travel with your pets. If you have pets and enjoy road trips, I highly recommend their Traveling With Your Pets guide. The guide lists pet-friendly accommodations and restaurants in hundreds of cities throughout the United States.

AAA Guide to Traveling With Your Pet
AAA’s guide to traveling with your pet is a great resource for pet-friendly lodging and restaurants.

You can plan your drive using their TripTik service online, or you can go to your local AAA office and ask them to help you create a TripTik (membership is not required to use this service). I used TripTik to plan out each day’s drive. As I plotted out our course, I aimed to keep drive times between 6-8 hours since that seemed like it would be as much as the three of us could take. Given the time of year we were traveling (mid-winter), I chose to travel along I-40: it was a direct route and–I hoped–far enough south that we wouldn’t encounter a lot of bad weather. Our route looked like this:

  • Day One: Alameda, CA to Kingman, AZ
  • Day Two: Kingman, AZ to Albuquerque, NM
  • Day Three: Albuquerque, NM to Oklahoma City, OK
  • Day Four: Oklahoma City, OK to Memphis, TN
  • Day Five: Memphis, TN to Knoxville, TN*
  • Day Six: Knoxville, TN to Raleigh, NC

*I originally intended to travel to Asheville, NC, but didn’t find accommodation that fit my budget and was cat-friendly.

Once the route was wire-framed, I could figure out where we were going to sleep each night. Here is where you need to research accommodations: pet-friendly is not always the same as cat-friendly.

I’m not a person who needs origami washcloths and truffles on my pillow: I just want a place for us to sleep that’s reasonably safe and bedbug-free. AirBnB can be an affordable option, and you may find places that are cat-friendly, however I decided against it due to my own discomfort in being in someone else’s home–especially with two cats who are going to be stressed out. Cats are champion hide-and-seek players and the possibility of having to pull someone’s room apart during a round of Crouching Furkid-Hidden Tabby did not appeal to me.

I had a budget of around $100/night, and found that LaQuinta Inn was our best option. It is a cat-friendly chain and they don’t charge an additional pet fee.

Find a pet-friendly place to stay in AAA's Guide
Find a pet-friendly place to stay in AAA’s Guide to Traveling With Your Pet

As I mentioned above, I tried to find accommodation in Asheville, NC that fit my budget, since they didn’t have a LaQuinta. There were pet-friendly places listed in the AAA guide that came close to my budget; however, when I checked the hotel websites, most of them only allowed dogs. I found one large national hotel chain that, at $130 was a bit over my budget, but it allowed cats so I set up a reservation for a pet-friendly room. It was only after I confirmed the reservation that the hotel disclosed the pet fee (it wasn’t in the quote for the room) of $45 PER PET.

Please allow me to gripe for a moment: First of all, people who aren’t traveling with pets generally won’t request a pet-friendly room, so anyone requesting such a room should be quoted a rate that includes any additional pet fee. Second, there was NO FREAKING WAY I was paying an extra $90 for one night, especially when my cats and I don’t require $90 worth of clean-up (I was hauling a hand-vacuum AND a bottle of Nature’s Miracle on the trip, so I had their clean-up covered). I cancelled the reservation and back-tracked us to Knoxville, TN, since it had a LaQuinta Inn.

Lesson: always do your research! The LAST thing you want to have happen after a long day on the road is to find out that the pet-friendly hotel you reserved doesn’t allow cats. The second-last thing you want is to be hit with a surprise pet fee.

Note: I am not employed by LaQuinta and I don’t get anything for recommending them, but I generally had a great experience with them. For the most part, they really are cat-friendly. I only experienced one problem with the accommodation in Albuquerque, where it took a few tries to find a room where the box springs weren’t ripped open (cats love to hide in box springs because it’s impossible to get them out of there without flipping mattresses). For the most part, though, LaQuinta staff across the country were very cat-friendly, knew most of the places where cats hide in the rooms*, and were always willing to help flip mattresses or move furniture to retrieve a cat.1

PACKING FOR THE TRIP

Food: Bring enough of their food to cover the time on the road, plus a few extra days (we had a six-day trip planned and I packed ten days’ worth of food). If something happens and your travel is extended, you don’t want to be scrambling to buy food on the road, especially if your cat is on a prescription diet that must be purchased from a veterinarian’s office. Be sure to include their favorite treats!

Water: Cats can be frustratingly finicky and will often shun something they have every day if it suddenly tastes different to them. Before we left California, I filled a 2-gallon jug with water from home for drinking and for their food preparation (I add water to their canned food). Two gallons was enough for the trip plus a few days of transition to Raleigh water. It was a taste of “home” and didn’t require them to make yet another sudden adjustment.

Dishes: My cats have several sets of ceramic dishes, but I only brought one set in the car with us. For the trip I used paper bowls to make MY life a little easier. I gave them a few meals in the paper bowls before we left, so they would be accustomed to them, but I wanted to keep their regular dishes handy, in case they needed that bit of home along the way.

Toys: Bring a baggie with some of your cat’s favorite toys. Include a favorite interactive/wand toy to help you entice your kitty out of hiding.

Medication: Refill any prescriptions for medications your cat takes before you move. That way you will have a full supply when you leave and won’t be scrambling to find a vet in your new city to authorize a refill.

Litter/litter box: Your cat is going to be spending the next several days in unfamiliar territory. Several of them, in fact. Their litter may be the most important component in helping your cat handle these changes. Although it’s tempting to want to use brand-new litter, your cat will be a lot more comfortable if he has litter with his scent in it. So, as tempting as it is to use fresh litter, make that litter change two or three days before you leave, so your cat has a chance to get his scent worked into it.

I was able to make space in our rooftop cargo bin to carry one of their regular litter boxes, so I scrubbed it thoroughly and brought it for the new home. For the trip, though, I bought a smaller, disposable box.

Carriers: This is another place you don’t want to skimp on comfort. Put their favorite blankets and beds inside the carrier. Unless the blanket/bedding has been soiled, resist the temptation to wash it immediately before leaving as your cat will feel comfortable with his scent on it.

Clancy had become prone to accidents in the carrier (these usually happened within the first five minutes of the trip), so I lined their carriers with pee pads and carried extra garbage bags in case of accidents.

Pheromone spray: I sprayed the inside of the carriers and the back seat of the car before our first drive, and again every couple of days during the trip. You might also spray the hotel room before you let the cat out of his carrier, and spray around your new home when you arrive.

Paperwork: You should bring your cat’s rabies certificate and have their microchip number and contact information for the registrars.

Flea treatment: If you can, it’s a good idea to give your cat a flea treatment a couple of days before you leave.

ON THE ROAD

Feeding and medication: You should withhold food and water at least two to three hours before you leave to avoid car sickness and minimize the chances of accidents in the carrier. If you are sedating your cats, you should give them their pills two hours before you leave (or go by the instructions on the bottle).

Safety and comfort: Once you have the car loaded and you’re about to close up the old house, spray the pheromone spray in the back seat of the car (or whatever part of the car they will be traveling in).

If you weren’t in the habit of buckling the cat carriers into the car before, get into this habit now. On a long trip there are just too many unknowns and too many unpredictable drivers: you don’t want cat carriers launching out of the back seat if you have to stop suddenly or if you get hit.

And you’re off! If you’ve done a practice trip (or two) with your cats, you have a good idea of what to expect from them in the car (and they will now have the experience of a car trip that does NOT end up at a vet’s office). With my Boys, I knew from our last trip that they will be zonked out for at least 30 minutes. Around that mark Charlie would usually perk up and start meowing and Clancy would join in soon after. The two of them would have a conversation for several minutes and then they would go quiet for a while.

This timeline extended into our trips. With sedation, the car would be quiet for 30-45 minutes before Charlie would start airing his grievances. If your cats do the same, you can play some music softly (cats’ ears are sensitive, so unless your cat prefers it, don’t crank the death metal to 11). There are albums available online that claim to be music for relaxing cats. I don’t know that the music relaxed them, but it kept me from stressing out over the cats’ occasional outbursts. I understood that the yowls were going to be part of the soundtrack of our trip and, as long as I didn’t pick up on distress in them, I didn’t need to respond to each vocalization.

Rest and refreshment for YOU: If you are traveling solo with your pets, make sure you’ve packed plenty of snacks and water for yourself, to minimize stops along the way. If you are traveling in the winter, excessive heat isn’t an issue, but in the summer you don’t want to have to choose between securing your car or roasting your kitties, if you need to stop for food. Even if you find pet-friendly restaurants along the way, getting the cat carriers out and buckling them back in again is time-consuming.

Stopping for the night: When you reach your lodging, keep the cats in their carriers until you’ve finished unloading the car AND put away any luggage carts and made sure that any open windows are closed.

I made the mistake of wanting to get my Boys out of their carriers and give them access to their litter box as quickly as possible: I’d set up the litter box and open the carriers in the bathroom and close the door while I unloaded the car. Charlie happens to be a master at opening doors, especially when he’s determined to patrol the room for better places to hide. (This is what led to our drama in Oklahoma City: he had opened the bathroom door and I decided to not stress him out by trying to wrangle him back into the bathroom.) If you have another human traveling companion, you can let the cats out and have one person keep an eye on them while the other loads/unloads the car, but if you’re the lone human, let them yowl in their carriers for a few more minutes.

WHERE CATS LOVE TO HIDE

You never realize how many nooks and crannies there are in a space until you need to find a cat. Here is a short list of places to look in hotel rooms.

Bathroom: behind toilets; in, under, or behind sink fixtures; in the tub/shower

Room area: inside box springs; under the bed; behind the nightstand (or in it); behind (or in) the dresser; behind the TV; in the closet; on the window sill behind the curtain (remember to check for open windows before you let the cat out of the carrier!).

One of the first things I checked once we were settled in the hotel room was the box spring. Ideally, the bed will be on a platform and not on a frame, as this minimizes the area that cats have to rip open the box springs. I ran my hand along the exposed area of the springs to check for any holes. If you find holes, you can plug them up with extra bedding or towels, or you might ask the front desk for a different room.

The possibility of needing to move furniture is the primary reason why I prefer hotels to an AirBnB. Hotel staff anticipate the need to shift furniture and are usually willing to help (plus they have a good idea of all the places in the room where a cat likes to hide). An AirBnB host may not be as amenable to you moving their stuff around, even when you do your best to put things back.

Hidden Tabby
Cats love hiding under the bed, just out of reach.

THIS IS NOT NORMAL

Cats are driven by routine and now their routine has been shattered. Consider yourself fortunate if you have a cat that can take change in his stride. Neither of mine are like that. For example, Clancy once started to jump on the sofa at home, only to launch himself into a backflip off of it because he saw a different blanket on it. As for Charlie, he tries his best to be a good sport but his face is very easy to read, so I know when he’s feeling distress but trying to put up a brave front.

Even though you will be carting them from place to place for several days, your cat can settle into a sense of normal, if you establish a “road routine”.

Interactive play: While Charlie and Clancy explored the room, I would hold their favorite interactive wand toy to distract them from their desire to immediately hide. This helped them get comfortable in the room and work up a bit of an appetite (and helped me find hidey-holes to plug).

Mealtime: My cats usually split a large can of food at breakfast and a small can at supper. However, I knew that they would likely be freaked out by the car ride and opted to start with the small can after the first trip. This would minimize waste, should they decide they were too upset to eat. At first both Boys made a good start on their canned food…until they heard dogs outside of our room. It took awhile for me to entice them back to their bowls with treats and their favorite kibble.

Clancy and Charlie eating supper
Clancy and Charlie having their first supper on the road.

Settling down for the night: Our established wind-down routine consisted of snuggling the kitties on the bed while I composed blog posts and wrote in my journal. Even if I had left them access to a hiding place or two, they usually felt comfortable enough to cuddle.

Mornings: In the morning I would feed them first thing (usually some kibble and the small can of food) so they would have time to digest while I showered, had some breakfast, packed, and loaded the car. We weren’t under as strict a timeline in the morning, once I stopped sedating them.

As much as possible, I added packing activity into other tasks, so there wouldn’t be a sudden burst of packing to alarm the cats and drive them into hiding. I kept the litter box out until it was time to load the cats into the carriers so they would have ample access as long as possible (Clancy still managed to have an accident a few minutes into our trip on Day Two…oh well).

The Boys started getting used to traveling by Day Three and there was less “conversation” from the back seat (and this was without drugs). The only issue we had (other than Clancy soiling his carrier) was going through mountain ranges. The change in air pressure bothered Clancy and he became more vocal as we climbed through the mountains in Arizona and Tennessee/North Carolina. If you notice a similar change in your cat’s behavior, he may be reacting to altitude.

WE ALL SURVIVED!!!

Six days after leaving California, we made it to our new home in Raleigh. It wasn’t always easy, but with planning and a lot of extra love to my Boys, we traveled nearly 3,000 miles without killing each other.

Now that they are seasoned travelers, I’m even considering planning future trips with them.


1We did have a dramatic evening in Oklahoma City when Charlie went missing. We checked behind furniture, flipped mattresses, looked in every closet, nook, and cranny in the room but couldn’t find him. My worst fear about the trip was coming true: Charlie MUST have somehow got out of the room, even though I was always vigilant when I had the door open. The staff at LaQuinta went above and beyond, checking every hallway on every floor and helping me check every common area. I even walked around the neighborhood several times, fearing he had escaped the hotel completely. My friend, who met us in OKC to finish the trip with us, had mentioned earlier that what looked like a drawer in the nightstand was actually a false front. I suddenly wondered if that meant the inside was solid or hollow, so I went over to pull it away from the wall. Mystery solved: the nightstand was hollow and Charlie had found a little opening in the back and had been chillin’ inside the whole time (I simultaneously wanted to hug him and wring his neck for scaring me). When I informed the staff that we found him–and where–they made a note of this new hiding spot, so all of the staff would be aware of one more place to look for hiding kitties.

A very naughty kitty!
Charlie had me searching the neighborhood for HOURS, when he was in this nightstand in the room the whole time.

Being An Ally: Playing For Pride

On March 23, 2016, the North Carolina legislature delivered a rebuke to the city of Charlotte, NC after it passed an ordinance extending protection to transgender people by allowing them to use the public restroom corresponding to the gender they identify with. Known as House Bill 2, or the “Bathroom Bill” the infamous legislation disallowed cities from expanding on state workplace discrimination laws (LGBTQ people were not specifically listed as a protected class in the state legislation).

Reaction to HB2 was swift and costly. In addition to the protests outside of the governor’s mansion and canceled concerts, the National Basketball Association moved the 2017 All-Star Game from Charlotte to New Orleans, and the NCAA and ACC pulled championship games out of North Carolina. Businesses canceled planned expansion into North Carolina and television and film companies pulled production out of the state.

In the furor following the passage of HB2, North Carolina Football Club co-captain Austin da Luz–who played college soccer at Wake Forest and returned to North Carolina after stints with Major League Soccer teams–attended marches in protest of the legislation, but he wanted to go beyond marching and passively sending checks to organizations that champion LGBTQ causes. As a professional athlete he realized he had a platform and he was determined to use it to support the LGBTQ community.

Playing For Pride began in 2017 as a way for da Luz and some of his friends in the soccer community to raise money for organizations supporting LGBTQ rights. The structure was simple: players signed up to pledge money for each game played, each goal scored, and each assist during the season, and fans were invited to match the donations of their favorite player on the team. During the 2017 season Playing for Pride committed 38 players and raised $13,841 (exceeding the goal of $12,500) for the Human Rights Campaign.

Playing For Pride 2018 adjusted the “season” so players are pledging for the month of June, rather than for the entire season, and the call went out for players to join the squad.

As of May 1st there were 15 players on the roster, many of them NCFC and North Carolina Courage club mates, plus a handful of players who had participated in 2017. By Memorial Day, the number of players had ballooned to 90110, representing teams from the United Soccer League (the league NCFC plays in), National Women’s Soccer League, Major League Soccer, Premier Development League, National Premier Soccer League plus some US Paralympic and international players. The RSL (Real Salt Lake) Foundation also pledged to match the donations of their MLS, NWSL, and USL participating players, up to $10,000.

This season, Playing For Pride is partnering with Athlete Ally, an organization founded by Hudson Taylor, an All-American college wrestler, who was alarmed by the rampant homophobia, transphobia, and sexism he witnessed as an athlete. He began his fight to end this discrimination by wearing an LGBTQ equality sticker on his wrestling headgear and blogging about his experience of witnessing discrimination in sports. Although he got pushback from teammates and other college athletes, his actions got the attention of closeted athletes, who reached out to him, and the media. Taylor was inspired to take advantage of this attention and founded Athlete Ally.

Playing For Pride 2018 donations will go toward Athlete Ally’s campaigns aimed at “ending rampant homophobia and transphobia in sport and to activate the athletic community to exercise their leadership to champion LGBTQ equality”.

Soccer has had its own issues regarding homophobic slurs aimed at opposing players. The Los Angeles Football Club’s inaugural home match was marred by these chants, which drew a strong response, both from the club and the supporters group. It is inspiring and important to see athletes like da Luz and Taylor, both cis-gendered straight men, use their privilege and their platform to advocate for the rights of LGBTQ people, whether they’re athletes or baristas or office workers.

If you missed the link above, you can donate to Playing For Pride this year here.

A Good Photo Editor On Your Marketing Team Is EVERYTHING

My old commute included a daily walk between the Ferry Building and my office near the Dragon’s Gate entrance to Chinatown. Walking to work one morning, I noticed some lightpost banners from Northwestern University, advertising their offerings in Digital Media and Engineering at the San Francisco campus.

The banners highlight San Francisco icons like they were pulled straight from Val Diamond’s headdress.

Golden Gate Bridge? Check.

Transamerica Pyramid? Check.

Painted Ladies? Check.

Cable Cars? Che…

Hang on a sec. Something about the image of the cable cars seems a little…hostile.

A light pole banner advertising Northwestern University's Digital Media and Engineering program in San Francisco, California.

Notice it?

 

Close crop of the Northwestern banner.

KEEP OUT

KEEP OUT

KEEP OUT

Holy “You Can’t Sit At OUR Table,” Batman!1

There are good public-safety reasons for MUNI to paint KEEP OUT all over the roadway, but it’s rather an off-putting message for an advertisement. And there are plenty of other places in this 7×7 city to get a decent shot of the iconic cable cars, minus the hostility.

For example, here we are at the California Street cable car turnaround:

An image of a cable car at the turnaround at the end of California Street.

Admittedly it may be a slightly less picturesque scene than the Powell Street shot with the cluster (flock? clowder?) of cable cars, but you get a good shot of a cable car, and if you take a step to your left (or walk a few blocks), you can even get the big California St. hill in the shot.

Or, y’know, as long as you’re turning the cable cars purple and removing the identifying banner on the front of the cars, how about working some Photoshop magic and use that handy-dandy healing tool to pave over the unwelcoming message?


 
1Come to think of it, this sort of Bring Lots Of Money Or Keep Out messaging is quite on-brand now for San Francisco.